I posted this to Twitter yesterday, but I think it deserves to be included her for the archives, because Twitter will eventually go away.
I Grew Up Extremely Religious and was Anti-Abortion for Most of My Life and It Gave Me Some Terrible Views on Sexuality and Gender That I’m Still Working Through and I Would be a Far Better Man Had I Recognized a Woman’s Right to Choose Earlier: A Thread
So: VERY religious of the nutty right wing evangelical suits and hymns sort of religious. I lost my virginity was I was 25 and didn’t have sex again until I met my wife at age 30.
I had so many things I wanted to do and places I wanted to go and back then I believed that if I had sex I would automatically get the woman pregnant and my only choice would be to marry her. I’d seen it happen to far too many guys and girls I grew up with.
Because of these beliefs, I developed a fear of both marriage and sexual intimacy that dogs me to this day (not to mention the patriarchal views of masculinity still working their way through my brain.
I was extremely lucky to find a wife with both the courage and the knowledge of herself to take control and show me what I’d been missing, but I still can’t help but think how much better I would be as a sexual partner had I spent my formative years learning the ropes.
Access to birth control and safe abortions have given women the ability to do what they want with their lives when they want to and in doing so have become a powerful, intelligent, and savvy force that scares the hell out of men and women who still believe the way I used to.
A woman doesn’t need to have an abortion to benefit from that option being there if she needs it, and every man in this country has benefited from what women have accomplished with these right, so to take them away under the bullshit guise of “life” is hypocrisy personified.