In the kitchen and pregnant

Man, is it really only Wednesday? This week is draaaaaaaaaaging by. But I really don’t want to speed anything up because that just puts us closer to D-Day for the big baby event which I’m still not sure I’m ready for. It hit home in a different way last week while Becky and I were trapsing across the internet looking for cheap last minute tickets to go somewhere and see Laura Lippman (btw, it’s cheaper to fly from Detroit to LAX than from Detroit to Minneapolis).  

Once the baby comes we won’t be able to do this. In fact, the baby was already mucking up the plans because the reason we were looking at flights is because Becky couldn’t stomach the thought of an 8 hour car ride to Minneapolis. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not mad about the baby and I am looking forward to it, but I don’t deal well with change. And this one’s a biggie.

This is why, if it’s at all possible, I want to take the baby and the wife to Baltimore for Bouchercon in October. I want my baby to be well-traveled and I don’t want my life to change very much. We’ll see how that works in reality though.

And continuing the mixed-gender roles theme we’ve got going here this week. Guess which one of us screwed up dinner last night? And it wasn’t the wife. Apparently you can add too much water to a bag of instant fettuccini alfredo. 

9 thoughts on “In the kitchen and pregnant

  1. You can bring babies anywhere. There will be a lot of luggage, but you’re smart in deciding to start traveling and doing things right away, so you and baby can get used to it.

    We started out our family in China. We started out eating in restaurants and flying in airplanes and sleeping in hotels. It can be done.

  2. You don’t want your life change much…

    The only way for that to happen is for you to be a terrible parent. If you’re worth anything at all as a father, your life is going to change big time.

  3. You will be tired all the time. You will not go to the movies again. At least not often. Go to the movies now, all the time, enjoy it while you can. And then when you do go to the movies again, it will be to see things like ALVIN AND THE CHIPMUNKS.

    But traveling? Yes. That doesn’t have to change except you will learn very creative places to change diapers. And you will constantly be carrying some sort of foodstuff on your person.

    It will become second nature. And your life will change, but in a good way.

  4. It’s like the Peace Corps…

    It’s “the toughest job you’ll ever love.”

    Or is that the Army?

    Either way, both pale in comparison to parenting.

    Here’s something we did with ours, and it’s been great for us:

    We started taking our first kid (and the rest that followed) out early. Taking them to restaurants when they’re six weeks old and on. Taking them on airplanes, on road trips – we got them completely accustomed to being in public, being on the road.

    And it worked wonders. We constantly, CONSTANTLY, have people come up to us in restaurants, etc., saying how amazingly well behaved our kids are. That they cringed when we sat down, expecting screaming toddlers and thrown food.

    But with our kids, going out was not some foreign concept that took them out of their comfort zone. It was a normal part of life.

    Take them early and take them often.

    Just don’t take them into movie theaters. Children under 3 don’t belong in movie theaters, and I can’t stand the parents who bring them. Jeez.

    Karen is right – see every movie possible in the next nine months, then get Netflix.

  5. Having children has been the most life-changing, the most challenging, the most demanding, most taxing, most meaningful and certainly the most rewarding experience. I wish you the same good fortune, Bryon. …

  6. It’s going to change the way you smell.

    But I think your’re going to be a good daddy.


  7. Coming late to this… But Guyot’s advice is absolutely right: endeavor to take the kid with you to as many places as possible. From a very early age, get them used to riding in the car, going to the mall, eating in restaurants, browsing in the bookstore, flying in an airplane… There’s no reason the kid can’t do all of those things — and by doing so, and by you modeling good behavior for them, and you encouraging them to do the same, they’ll learn how to behave appropriately and you’ll be able to take them anywhere without too much stress. (It’s still some stress, and an enormous amount of packing, but you can do it.)

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